Take Charge

Every human being has to pass childhood at least once. At one point in our life, we need to go through the process of growing physically starting from a helpless day-old infant into a full grown man. It is said that our childhood is our most dependent years. This is the time when we are still learning about the Earth as well as life. With our fragile and small physique, we needed our parents to feed us, to bathe us, to tie our shoe lace, to pick us up when we stumble, to console us when we cry and bribe us with candies and toys. This is the time when they provide all of what we need; milk, food, clothes, toys, etc. This is the time that we are; more or less, well provided for. The giving and the receiving roles of the parents and children respectively are in perfect harmony. So in short, as children with things yet to know and with bones yet to grow, we are programmed to be dependent to other people. We just take things without much thought and consideration. We just let things to go and pass; no sense of urgency, no path to follow, no purpose to find and fulfill. I realized, it actually is blissful, right?very euphoric... I hope we could just stay children forever or at least twice (..hehe).

But then there will come a point in our lives that we need to grow up, we are forced into reality. There comes the time when we realize that there are no more free toys, no more free candies. We realize that things will be provided for us forever. We realize that we cannot any more have or even just ask for the things we want or sometimes need. Here, we realize that life will not spoon-feed us; that we cannot just let things pass by and not think of our tomorrow; that we need to stand up, walk and take charge of our lives. Gradually, we detach from dependency, we are slowly entering independence. For some this comes early in life, for some it blooms late but for some, it just never comes.

So what do we, children, do when we face this transition?

Well, some have tantrums, some cry, some just won't let go of their dependency, some find another dependency to replace the former, some are in denial, some would and could not accept, some are left behind by life but a few takes control and embraces freedom. A few emerges successfully out of their cocoons of dependency into becoming flying butterflies---independent and free.

Yes, that is life. It will never allow us to be passive drivers of our lives; it will at some point require you to stand your ground, to be responsible and in control. Fortunate are those who doesn't need to realize these things for they can afford to be comfortable in dependency. Pitiful are those who deny and wait for someone to provide and make things happen for them. Courageous are those who accept and take charge.